Loving someone with cumulative and complex relational injuries can be challenging. Learn to manage the impacted neurobiology and relational wounds. This episode addresses both children and adults with complicated attachment histories and gives ideas about how to manage.Whether it’s your own history or someone you love, let’s be honest – it can be challenging at times to be in very close relationships when early attachment injuries have been layered and ongoing and unaddressed. Threat and unrepaired relational ruptures are encoded in our biology and our neurological systems.Child and Family Therapist Robyn Gobbel, LCSW joins co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP for a discussion on complex trauma and the importance of boundaries and depersonalizing, especially as a parent. You’ll learn how to best communicate between your partner and child when things get tense and how best to employ structured nurture and scaffolding in those relationships.Robyn Gobbel – Robyn is the founder of Central Texas Attachment & Trauma Center and specializes in adoption, attachment, and trauma. She leads webinars for parents and clinicians and will be releasing a new podcast soon! Stay tuned! Related episodes: Episode 23 Building Grit Through Self-Compassion with Kristen Neffand Episode 51 Conquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling with Steve Finn IntroductionDefining “trauma” and the difficulties in doing soNeurobiology of traumaComplex TraumaTrauma in relationshipsGobbel’s interest in traumaGobbel’s focus on working with children, starting early when individual is in safe family space and setting groundwork for the future Listener question about multigenerational traumaSelf-compassion, acknowledging complex historyImportance of being able to look back and repair rather than aim to be perfect all the timeWhat happens when one parent/partner is regulated and the other isn’t. If intervention is necessary make sure it’s about compassion rather than accusing the partner of messing up.What Gobbel has learned from working with parents, children and families: When curiosity and compassion open up, ability to repair greatly increasesSteve Finn and moving from shame to guilt; shame is inherent in complex traumaStructured Nurture and finding the right balance Importance of ability to depersonalize, particularly as a parent, in order to have delight around your childrenUnderstanding and how to best employ “scaffolding” in yourself and with your childrenWrap Up ResourcesIt’s Not You But What Happened to You by Chrisitine CourtoisTreating Complex Trauma a Sequenced Relationship-based ApproachBy Christine Courtois Julian FordCreative Therapies for Complex Trauma Helping Children and Families in Foster Care, Kinship Care or AdoptionEdited by Joy Hasler and Anthea HendryContact Robyn:http://centraltexasattachmenttrauma.com/https://www.gobbelcounseling.com/TweetSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.