Sex With Emily
Sex With Emily
Dr. Emily Morse
What Happens to Your Body During Anal (Surgeon Explains)
50 minutes Posted Mar 27, 2026 at 10:00 am.
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Intro
Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein: Anal Surgeon & Founder of Bespoke Surgical
Where Does the Taboo Around Anal Come From?
The Three Pillars: How to Prepare, Play & Recover
The 4 to 6 Week Dilating Protocol Every Beginner Needs
Lube 101: Silicone vs. Water-Based & When to Use Each
The Lube Shooter, Empowering the Bottom & Why You Can't Assume Your Partner Knows
Douching: Why Water and Store-Bought Enemas Can Do More Harm Than Good
Less Is More: Gut Health, Fiber & How to Douche the Right Way
Aftercare: What to Do If You Tear or Have Pain
Beginner Tips: Positions, Partner Communication & Choosing the Right Size
Listener Q&A: Hemorrhoids, Skin Tags & Can You Still Have Anal Sex?
Listener Q&A: Colon Surgery, Couples Starting Out & Sex Positions by State
Why Wet Wipes Are Wrecking Your Microbiome (Anal and Vaginal)
Five Quicky Questions with Dr. Goldstein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Show notes
If you've ever avoided anal because it hurt, felt intimidating, or just had too many unanswered questions — you haven't had the right conversation yet. Whether you're completely new to backdoor play or you've been doing it for years without the proper foundation, most people are skipping the steps that actually make it feel good. And that's not a problem. That's an education problem.
In this episode, I sit down with nationally renowned anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein — founder of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method — for the most honest, shame-free breakdown of anal health and pleasure you're going to find anywhere.
In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why anal sex should never be painful, what's actually causing the pain, and the exact 4-6 week protocol that prepares your body the right way
• The truth about douching, wet wipes, and why most people are unknowingly damaging their anal microbiome before sex even starts
• How to navigate anal with hemorrhoids, skin tags, or past injuries — and what your options actually are when something goes wrong
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