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In this episode, my guest is Esther Perel, a world-renowned psychotherapist, relationship expert, and bestselling author. She explains healthy romantic relationship dynamics and how to achieve them. The answer includes curiosity not just about the other person but, more importantly, about who we can evolve into through healthy relating.Esther explains the fundamental differences and challenges in relationships formed at different stages of life. We also discuss relationship conflict and how to give and receive a true apology.Additionally, we discuss fidelity, breaches of trust, reviving relationships, and tools for understanding your needs regarding love and desire in a relationship. The episode will help listeners understand the key elements to find, build, and revive deeply satisfying romantic relationships.Access the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com.Thank you to our sponsorsAG1: https://drinkag1.com/hubermanDavid Protein: https://davidprotein.com/hubermanLMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanHelix Sleep: https://helixsleep.com/hubermanFunction: https://functionhealth.com/hubermanTimestamps00:00:00 Esther Perel00:02:03 Sponsors: David Protein, LMNT & Helix Sleep00:06:33 Romantic Relationships, Change & Self00:11:18 Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships, Age Differences00:16:53 Young vs. Older Couples, Dynamic Relationships00:20:13 Identity & Relationship Evolution00:26:00 Curiosity, Reactivity00:30:29 Sponsor: AG100:31:59 Polarization, Conflict; Coherence & Narratives00:38:21 Apologies, Forgiveness, Shame, Self-Esteem00:45:00 Relationship Conflict00:53:48 Sponsor: Function00:55:35 Verb States of Conflict; Emotion, Narratives vs. Reality01:00:10 Time Domains & Hurt; Caretaker & Romantic Relationships01:08:03 Couples Therapy; Language & Naming01:20:15 Sexuality in Relationships01:26:20 Tool: Love & Desire, Sexuality01:31:28 Infidelity, “Aliveness”01:35:17 Intimacy, Abandonment, Self-Preservation01:41:26 Erotic Blueprints, Emotional Needs01:49:42 Tool: Repair Work, Relationship Revival; Sincere Apologies01:59:30 Tool: Relationship Readiness02:03:33 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network NewsletterDisclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices