In this episode, my guest is Dr. Becky Kennedy, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and founder of Good Inside, an education platform for parents and parents-to-be. We discuss actionable protocols for raising resilient, emotionally healthy kids and effective alternatives to typical forms of reward and punishment that instead teach children valuable skills and strengthen the parent-child bond. These protocols also apply to other types of relationships: professional, romantic, friendships, siblings, etc. We explain how to respond to emotional outbursts, rudeness, and entitlement, repair fractured relationships, build self-confidence, and improve interpersonal connections with empathy while maintaining healthy boundaries. We also discuss how to effectively communicate with children and adults with ADHD, anxiety, learning challenges, or with “deeply feeling” individuals. The conversation is broadly applicable to all types of social interactions and bonds. By the end of the episode, you will have learned simple yet powerful tools to build healthy relationships with kids, teens, adults, and oneself.For show notes, including referenced articles and additional resources, please visit hubermanlab.com.Thank you to our sponsorsAG1: https://athleticgreens.com/hubermanLMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlabWaking Up: https://wakingup.com/hubermanTimestamps

Dr. Becky Kennedy

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Healthy Relationships: Sturdiness, Boundaries & Empathy

Tool: Establishing Boundaries

Rules, Boundaries & Connection

Rewards & Punishments; Skill Building

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Kids & Inherent Good

Family Jobs, Validation & Confidence, Giving Hope

Rewards, Pride

Tool: “I Believe You”, Confidence & Safety; Other Relationships

Trauma, Aloneness & Repair

Tool: Repair & Apologies, Rejecting Apology

Tool: Good Apologies

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Tool: Rudeness & Disrespect, Most Generous Interpretation

Walking on Eggshells, Pilot Analogy & Emotional Outbursts, Sturdy Leadership

Deeply Feeling Kids; Fears, Sensory Overload

Co-Parenting Differences & Punishment

Tool: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD); Meditation

Tool: Tolerating Frustration, Screen Time, Learning

Grace & Parenthood, Parenting Job Description; Relationship to Self

Tool: “I’m Noticing”, Asking Questions; Emotional Regulation

Adolescence & Critical Needs, Explorers vs. Nomads

Saying “I Love You”, Teenagers; Family Meetings

Self-Care, Rage & Boundaries; Sturdy Leaders; Parent Relationship & Conflict

Tool: Wayward Teens, Marijuana & Substance Use, Getting Additional Help

Mentors

Tool: Entitlement, Fear & Frustration

Tool: Experiencing Frustration; Chores & Allowance

Good Inside Platform