What to do when the voice in your head is an asshole.   Sebene Selassie is an author and meditation teacher. She writes the popular newsletter remind me to love and her first book is called, You Belong.    Jeff Warren is an author and meditation teacher. He writes the popular newsletter Home Base and is the coauthor, along with Dan, of a book called Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics. And he is the co-host of the mind/bod adventure pod. Aaron Schultz aka DJ DRM has crisscrossed the globe for decades playing his own unique brand of dance music. Aaron is also a longtime meditator and Dharma practitioner in the Dharma Drum lineage of Chan Buddhism, and is a passionate devotee of GuanYin Bodhisattva.   In this episode we talk about: How to relate to sticky stories and emotions  How to face unpleasant feelings  The 5 hindrances (that’s a Buddhist list of the main problems that arise in meditation) and how sneaky they can be  The potential pitfalls of a “good sit” The role of right effort in meditation  How expectations make us suffer Neurodivergence Working with shame (and how it differs from wise remorse)  The connection between dancing and the Dharma (and why Dan is too self-conscious to dance) Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel On Sunday, September 21st from 1-5pm ET, join Dan and Leslie Booker at the New York Insight Meditation Center in NYC as they lead a workshop titled, "Heavily Meditated – The Dharma of Depression + Anxiety." This event is both in-person and online. Sign up here!    Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris Sponsors:  Liquid IV: Savor the last bits of summer with Liquid I.V. Tear. Pour. Live More. Go to LiquidIV.com and get 20% off your first order with code HAPPIER at checkout.  AT&T: Staying connected matters. That's why AT&T has connectivity you can depend on, or they will proactively make it right. Visit att.com/guarantee for details.

You talk all day. Here’s how to do it better, according to a professor from Harvard Business School. Alison Wood Brooks comes from the Harvard Business School, where she teaches a course called “TALK: How to Talk Gooder in Business and Life,” which she has now turned into a book, called TALK: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves. In this episode we talk about: The evolution of conversation  Why conversation is a skill — not just a natural talent  How to develop conversational skills, including common conversational pitfalls to avoid Granular, tactical pieces of advice on how to have a conversation The science behind conversation that may surprise you Listening tips  Conversational repair strategies  How kindness can go pear shaped  How to handle difficult moments in conversation  The difference between focusing on other people and people pleasing  How to integrate these incredible learnings into your life  How soft skills are becoming increasingly more valuable with the rise of AI  Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  Alison’s band, The Lights   On Sunday, September 21st from 1-5pm ET, join Dan and Leslie Booker at the New York Insight Meditation Center in NYC as they lead a workshop titled, "Heavily Meditated – The Dharma of Depression + Anxiety." This event is both in-person and online. Sign up here!    Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris Sponsors:  Function Health: Learn more and join using our link. Visit www.functionhealth.com/HAPPIER to own your health. Factor Meals: Eat smart at FactorMeals.com/TENPERCENT50OFF and use code TENPERCENT50OFF to get 50% off your first box, plus free breakfast for 1 year. AT&T: Staying connected matters. That's why AT&T has connectivity you can depend on, or they will proactively make it right. Visit att.com/guarantee for details.

What to do when you're in the grip of grief, anxiety, or overwhelm. Our Teacher of the Month, Kaira Jewel Lingo, has some suggestions for finding your way through.    Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel   On Sunday, September 21st from 1-5pm ET, join Dan and Leslie Booker at the New York Insight Meditation Center in NYC as they lead a workshop titled, "Heavily Meditated – The Dharma of Depression + Anxiety." This event is both in-person and online. Sign up here! Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

We’re bringing you some of our favorite gems from the archives, as chosen by our staff. This week, we’re hearing from dharma teacher Vinny Ferraro, as chosen by our producer Eleanor Vasilli. Vinny explores the concept of “alignment” and how you can actually choose your own attitude – and choose your own adventure.  Full Episode: Three Buddhist Practices for Getting Your Sh*t Together | Vinny Ferraro Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel On Sunday, September 21st from 1-5pm ET, join Dan and Leslie Booker at the New York Insight Meditation Center in NYC as they lead a workshop titled, "Heavily Meditated – The Dharma of Depression + Anxiety." This event is both in-person and online. Sign up here! Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

The highest form of self compassion (is seeing there’s no self in the first place).   Caverly Morgan is a meditation teacher who blends the original spirit of Zen with a modern nondual approach, drawing from her eight years of training in a silent Zen monastery. She's authored two books—The Heart of Who We Are: Realizing Freedom Together and A Kids Book About Mindfulness. Caverly is also the Founder and Lead Contemplative of two nonprofits—Peace in Schools, creating the first U.S. semester-long credited mindfulness course in high schools, and Realizing Freedom Together, dedicated to making practices that lead to liberation for all, accessible to all. Learn more at caverlymorgan.org In this episode we talk about: How to move past a constricted view of the self  Relative vs absolute truth  Joseph Goldstein tips on getting a glimpse of no self  The perks of meat and potato dharma  More practices to help supercharge our practice How love and self-compassion factor into all of this Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  Website: Things Caverly wished she said to Dan Harris  A Practice: Fleshing Out Our Conditioning Prompts:  In order to be loved, I need to . . . During times of conflict, I should . . . My parents always taught me that . . . I deserve . . . I’ll be comfortable when . . . I’ll be happy when . . . I know I should avoid . . . If only . . . Other people would be happy if I . . . It’s best not to . . . I’m usually afraid of . . . To feel successful I need to . . . The thing I should most watch out for is . . . I never seem to be able to . . . On Sunday, September 21st from 1-5pm ET, join Dan and Leslie Booker at the New York Insight Meditation Center in NYC as they lead a workshop titled, "Heavily Meditated – The Dharma of Depression + Anxiety." This event is both in-person and online. Sign up here!    Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris   SPONSORS:  Leesa Go to leesa.com for 30% off mattresses, plus get an extra $50 off with the promo code “happier”.  StitchFix  Get started today at stitchfix.com/happier to get $20 off your first order, and they’ll waive your styling fee.

In this episode we talk about: What hypnosis actually is — and how it does or doesn’t differ from the mainstream conceptions (ie stage hypnotists) The types of people who are — and aren’t — hypnotizable. And why.  We go over the steps of self-hypnosis, so you can do it at home We talk about the differences between hypnosis and a flow state The difference between hypnosis and meditation  What happens in the brain during the hypnosis And what hypnosis is helpful for, including stress, anxiety, and panic (sidenote: Dan agreed to do the interview because he really wanted to see if hypnosis could help him with his ongoing claustrophobia on airplanes and elevators. You’ll get to hear him try…) Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris SPONSORS:  Function Health Learn more and join using our link. Visit www.functionhealth.com/HAPPIER to own your health. Monarch Money Get control of your overall finances with Monarch Money. Use the code “happier” at monarchmoney.com in your browser for 50% off your first year.

All this month, we’re sharing custom guided meditations from our teacher of the month, Kaira Jewel Lingo, exclusively available at DanHarris.com. Like any good drug dealer, the first taste is free – so today, we’re giving you a sample of what you can expect for the rest of the month. This meditation is about learning to sit with discomfort.  Related Episodes: Are You Overcomplicating Your Life? Meet August's Teacher of the Month, Kaira Jewel Lingo   Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025.   Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel   To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

It’s good to apologize when you’ve hurt someone’s feelings, but there’s more to “making up” than simply an apology. We’re bringing you some of our favorite gems from the archives, as chosen by our staff, and this week we’re hearing from parenting expert and psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy about taking the next step when you’ve made a mistake. Full Episode:  How to Repair the Damage After a Fight | Dr. Becky Kennedy The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED   Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025.   To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris  

How to (constructively) lower the bar on your meditation practice.   Ofosu Jones-Quartey is a meditation teacher, hip-hop artist, and author based in the DC area. He’s a certified teacher with over 20 years of experience bringing mindfulness, self-compassion, and creativity to people of all ages. His stage name is “Born I,”, and his new book is called Lyrical Dharma: Hip-Hop as Mindfulness.   In this episode we talk about: The definition of open-awareness meditation  How it differs from classical concentration practices (such as focusing on your breath, or loving kindness phrases) Why Ofosu chose open-awareness meditation (in direct response to his struggles with OCD) How you can practice open-awareness meditation  The benefits of a technique called “mental noting”  The “practice self-assessment tapes” that we run in our mind Self-compassion and “lowering the bar” in your meditation practice The relationship between  neurodiversity and meditation in general How to  depersonalize the experience of suffering And we hear some of Ofosu’s music and the life experiences that inspired it Related Episodes: How to Become a Regular Meditator (and More) | Alexis Santos A More Relaxed Way to Meditate | Alexis Santos Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel   Additional Resources:  Lyrical Dharma Music Playlist   Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more here.   To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris   Sponsors: Narwal VacuumIf you want to treat your home to spotless, fresh floors, visit us.narwal.com/podcast to get the early bird price! Function HealthLearn more and join using our link. The first 1,000 get a $100 credit toward their membership. Visit www.functionhealth.com/HAPPIER or use gift code HAPPIER 100 at sign-up to own your health.

An expert in failure shows us how to find success in the most counterintuitive way.   Manu Kapur is currently the Director of the Singapore-ETH Center, and Professor for Learning Sciences and Higher Education at ETH Zurich, Switzerland, where he also directs The Future Learning Initiative (FLI). Manu is also the Founding Chair of the ETH Zurich – EPFL Joint Doctoral Program in the Learning Sciences. In this episode we talk about: The definition of Productive Failure (a concept Manu developed that allows you to design for and harness failure for deeper learning) Why we learn more from failing than from succeeding The difference between desirable and undesirable failure  The neuroscience of curiosity Practical ways to incorporate productive failure into your daily life How to get into your “failure zone”  Cool concepts like the looking back and moving the Gold posts How to normalize failure and create environments in which other people feel safe to fail  The role of psychological safety and a growth mindset And much more Join Dan’s online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  Productive Failure Manu’s Ted Talk Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025.   To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris   Sponsors: Coop Sleep Goods Upgrade your summer sleep. Visit coopsleepgoods.com/HAPPIER10 to get 20% off your first order.  Open Phone OpenPhone is offering our listeners 20% off of your first 6 months at OpenPhone.com/happier. NOCD Head over to nocd.com and book a free 15‑minute call with their team, to learn more and start getting help with OCD.