This conversation unpacks the tension between confidence and performance in youth sports, highlighting how many athletes wait for success to feel confident, when in reality confidence must come first to enable strong play. Through reflections on volleyball and hockey experiences, the coaches explore how mindset, team culture, and coaching decisions (especially around playing time and competition) shape both individual development and team outcomes. They also surface a deeper truth: sport is a microcosm of life—where confidence, resilience, and self-belief are learned through experience, reinforced by environment, and tested under pressure.

Top 3 Takeaways

1. It depends. Experience as a role player or playing all the time. Team belonging matters.
2. Embrace what we are good at and accept the compliment.
3. Parent perspectives on playing time. For every player at the bottom worried about not playing, how is it for the players at the top. If my kid plays will it hurt the team? And is this a year as a parent I can help them learn to manage the disappointment in not always playing to develop for when they get their turn to shine?