U Up?
U Up?
Betches Media
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches
Long-Distance Love or Just Bad Timing?
Jared and Jordana sit down with Sophie, who’s originally from the UK and now building her life in New York City, to unpack a long-distance love that won’t quite let go. After a whirlwind month together, she and her high school crush tried to make it work across continents, but mismatched communication styles and visa hurdles got in the way. Now he says he’s willing to wait until her “New York chapter ends,” but Sophie’s unsure if that’s romantic or just unrealistic. Is it love, pressure, or emotional limbo? They explore long-distance struggles, the tension of timing, and the culture clash between UK and NYC dating! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 8
46 min
How To Clean Up Your Feed After a Breakup
Jared and Jordana unpack the dos and don’ts of dating in the age of social media. Jared explains why unfollowing your ex immediately after a breakup is a crucial act of self-care and shares the three things you need to consider when managing your breakup posts online. They talk about the subtle ways we use stories to check if someone’s watching and break down which ex photos to keep, edit, or delete to protect your new dating life. We also discuss a listener's question, do you need permission to follow you best friend's new boyfriend? It's a social media themed episode, be sure to listen and take notes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 6
1 hr 20 min
Does 'The Materialists' Hate Matchmakers?
Jared and Jordana are back with another movie review episode of The Materialists, directed by Celine Song and starring Dakota Johnson, Chris Evans, and Pedro Pascal. Spoiler alert!! J&J break down the film’s portrayal of matchmaking as cold and transactional, and ask whether Song set out to take down the matchmaking industry altogether. From red flag roommate situations to Coke-and-beer drink orders, J&J debate every messy decision and chaotic romance. Is it a rom-com, a satire, or something much darker? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 1
1 hr 11 min
Is It Okay to Date Your Brother’s Best Friend?
Jordana shares her firsthand experience at a concert when she witnessed the viral moment Mr. Met fell off stage at Citi Field, breaking it down with Jared as pure comedy gold. Jared and Jordana read a listener’s email about a guy’s shy hopscotch move on a first date and debate when quirky crosses into “icky.” They dive into a friendship dilemma about hooking up with a best friend’s college fling years later, exploring honesty and boundaries. Plus, Jared calls out the major red flag of guys asking for selfies before the first date: “If a woman asks me for pictures, I’m opting out.” This episode covers hilarious fails, dating deal breakers, and navigating complicated friendships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 30
1 hr 13 min
Too Soon to Reveal Feelings?
Dating in your 40s? Jared and Jordana break down why it actually gives you the upper hand, less game-playing, more clarity, and faster exits from the wrong situations. A listener writes in about a promising new connection and a big reveal, prompting a convo on knowing what you want as you get older. Then, they react to a jaw-dropping first-date horror story involving a drunk, naked sleepwalker and a ruined mattress. The debate continues: is peeing the bed a dating red flag... or just a funny story? Modern dating, relationship boundaries, and chaotic hookups, this episode has it all! full ep here 👉https://youtu.be/wOrL4kV0bSQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 25
35 min
Is Going Out Alone a Red Flag?
Would you go to a concert solo? In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana play “Would You Go Alone?” and debate when flying solo feels empowering versus just sad. They break down the “casual clock” - the timeline guys follow to keep things casual while still reaping relationship benefits. Then, a listener's email sparks a debate: is groaning at helping an elderly woman a red flag or just bad timing? They also run through a list of mama’s boy behaviors, from outfit picks to dentist appointments, and ask: is it icky or just picky? If you’ve ever wondered why he keeps coming back without committing, or how much mom-involvement is too much, this episode has answers! Watch full ep here 👉https://youtu.be/xi2KPzZAAfs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 23
1 hr 25 min
How Long Is Too Long to Be Single? ft. Gals on the Go
In this episode, Jordana and Jared welcome Brooke Miccio and Danielle Carolan, co-hosts of the popular Gals on the Go podcast. They dive into their journey as college influencers and how social media shapes modern dating and relationships, especially across Gen Z and Millennial cultures. Brooke and Danielle open up about living with their boyfriends, relationship boundaries, and how to navigate shared spaces without losing your mind! Jared reacts to Brooke’s viral TikTok claiming she’s been “single since birth,” questioning if that’s a real thing, sparking a fun debate about dating timelines and how men and women perceive time differently.  Full episode here 👉https://youtu.be/uqr_cPhgdxc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 18
48 min
He Calls His Mom Every Night?!
In this episode, J&J debate whether FaceTiming your mom every night on a romantic weekend is sweet or a total ick. A listener writes in about her boyfriend buying Sydney Sweeney's bath water soap, and the hosts weigh in on whether that’s quirky or cringe. They dig into whether dating an anonymous internet troll is ever okay (spoiler: nope). Jordana’s pool is open, so they break down the unspoken rules of hosting outside vs. inside in the summer. Plus, someone in an ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationship gets ghosted before the first date, and Jared reminds us that nothing counts until you’re actually face-to-face. Watch episode here 👉https://youtu.be/aKH7wyMgbMw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 16
1 hr 19 min
Who Really Deserves an Apology After a Breakup? ft. Atsuko Okatsuka
Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka joins J&J this week for a hilarious and heartfelt deep dive into dating, breakups, and family drama. They kick things off with a wild listener email about a broken engagement, and whether you owe the entire ex-family an apology. Atsuko shares the story of a third date turned trauma bond after her now-husband paused foreplay to sing to his mom on the phone. The trio explores how vulnerability, cultural differences, and mental health shape our relationships. They also unpack a front-row breakup at Atsuko’s comedy show and debate whether the full moon really messes with your mood (and your mom). It all wraps up with a petty game of “Apology or Nah?” that exposes just how messy post-breakup etiquette can be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 11
53 min
Can Weight Gain Change Your Relationship?
In this episode of U Up? , hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried unpack the toughest parts of dating, from breakups and body image struggles to spotting red flags versus deal breakers. They dive into an eye-opening conversation about Hinge’s new note feature, sharing expert tips on writing playful, effective messages that keep the vibe light while weeding out the wrong matches. Plus, they discuss real listener dilemmas including “Is multiple cat Instagrams a deal breaker?” and how to handle forgetfulness on dates. Whether you’re navigating relationship closure or crafting your dating profile, this episode delivers honest, funny, and relatable advice. Perfect for singles eager to improve their dating strategy and avoid common pitfalls in today’s dating apps. Tune in for candid insights and laughter-filled stories that will change the way you date! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/Pv_Msu2Qp6o Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 9
1 hr 26 min
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