The advice is just “let them” Sit there, be a hover parent & when they do something wrong, calmly hold them & sit through their big emotions and speak like a child therapist to your children. Hello dysfunctional adults who think the world revolves around them!

I normally love Janet’s advice, but dang, her last episode about the bad advice she gave was so rude and back handed 😂 maybe go somewhere else for potty training advice, but she has a lot of great insight usually! This one seemed uncharacteristic because she is usually not so egotistical, but the ego really came through on this one.

I only find this podcast okay. I feel that the advice for every situation is the same: “let them”. That’s it. Stay calm and let them. I just saved you from wasting your time listening to episode after episode.

Thoughtful host with a wide variety of topics. Must-listen for thoughtful parents!

I started listening to The Unruffled Podcast when my first child was a newborn, alongside reading Janet Lansbury’s book and Magda Gerber’s work. It completely transformed my perspective on parenting in the best way possible. The insights and practical guidance helped me navigate every challenging stage with more confidence and clarity. Now, with my kids at 2 and 4, I still listen every week because there’s always something new to learn that helps me handle the ups and downs of parenting with more patience and understanding. Janet’s calm, reassuring voice and expert advice make this podcast an absolute must-listen for any parent looking for a more respectful and peaceful approach to raising children. I can’t recommend it enough!

The 3 year old crying and wants to be on her mummy but she is agreeing with the mom and says yes push them away. The child needs hugs and closeness!!

I started listening to this podcast a little over seven years ago when I was pregnant with my oldest child. I learned so much about respecting babies and I’m so grateful I was able to have that when my kids were that age. Now, over seven years later, with two kids - we’ve all been through so much I never expected and I’m still listening and learning every day. Thank you, Janet. So much.

Terrible advise creating more dysfunctional adults,

As a former childcare educator & first time mother — Janet’s work will always be a touchstone. Every episode of this podcast is a reminder and deeper insight into the value of respectful and authentic relationships; they reveal the potential we each have as parents/caregivers in fully loving and leading our toddlers, who are seeking independence and deep connection all at once. These episodes also help me to bring my husband up to speed as he has never had any training in child development, but wants to remain “unruffled” by toddlerhood and all the opportunities it brings. We also benefited so much from Janet’s work on infants our first year of parenthood. I highly recommend her books and blog alongside this podcast. Thank you, Janet!

HAL 9000 vibes. Run from this robot like it’s the apocalypse.

The podcast with Mr. Chazz was strange. It seemed Janet couldn’t simply receive all the good wisdom and expertise he had to offer without adding her own input/opinion/flare to it. We hear from Janet often, I would’ve appreciated leaning into what Mr. Chazz had to offer a little more than what Janet did.

Your podcast has been absolutely necessary for me, thank you

Janet’s RIE approach resonates with me and I can’t thank her enough for the change in perspective I have gained! Her voice is excellent, and she is thoughtful. I am a psychiatrist with training and psychodynamic therapy, and her approach has a psychodynamic sensibility.

Been listening for years, my husband and I have learned so much from Janet and RIE (including via this this podcast ). Janet is love to hear more on older kids (even though you say that’s not your specialty). I enjoyed what you had to say about older kids a few episodes back and it left me wanting more as our oldest is now 10 🤍🤍

If you want to learn how NOT to be a parent that these children clearly need… listen to this.

As a Pediatrician in practice for 20 years, I am always on the lookout for podcasts I can recommend to parents in my practice. I was super concerned but still willing to give this one a chance. My BIG concern was that Ms. Lansbury has no medical or professional training except her own parenting (and uncertified classes) from which she gives advice. I am ALL for parents supporting parents but when it is coming off as “expert” advice and not clarified as an opinion, it truly is worrisome. For example, in her episode about young children who have angry outbursts, she advises a parent of a 3 yo that this child has “bottled up feelings” and this is why they are acting out. She is dismissive of some of the instructive (non-punative) measures the mother has taken. The mother actually used key words in her letter that made me, as a medical practitioner concerned that her child had early signs of a Neurodevelopmental Disorder (e.g. Autism). Frankly Ms. Lansbury may not know her limits and that is where harm can be done. I also am concerned when the end goal is to push a product, such as her own book & classes. So is her podcast really unbiased? Parents I ask that you listen to this with caution. At least with your own doctor, if you disagree with us, you choose not to come back and find someone else. Sometimes we get blinded by the stardom of a person and forget that they may not be qualified for certain things. “Auditorem cave!”

She doesn’t really give any real advice, just goes in circles about listening to your child. Not very helpful. Also she sounds like she needs to take a gas-x like she’s constantly releasing gas (burping) while she talks.

Professional nanny here! 🙋🏼‍♀️ I share unruffled with every family I work with! Works time after time, family after family 🤍

While I love the overall philosophy here, the delivery is rough. She reads through the emails from parents as if holding back laughter about how dumb they are that they don’t know what’s so obvious to her (the expert). It comes across very condescending and I would be mortified to have a sincere and earnest question read aloud by her! That said, absorbing her overall philosophy has not only made me a WAY more relaxed parent, but it has enriched my relationship with my child. Episodes are short and easy to digest and simple applicable solutions. If you have a specific parenting question there’s bound to be any episode about it and she almost always specifies the age of the child each episode which is really helpful.

The most recent episode with Gabriel Mate just left me feeling really bad and like I’m failing at parenting. I think most of Janet’s listeners are conscientious parents who love our kids and are trying as hard as we can to do things right. But advice like this feels so shaming. Never use any technology in front of our kids, never let them near screens, always be perfectly attuned to them, if possible spend all your time with them… these are impossible standards to live up to for most of us. Usually Janet’s advice is reassuring and grounding for me so I think this is more about Mate than her, but I found it especially disheartening as I get ready to send my 5 month old to daycare.

I find it profoundly disappointing that Gabor Mate, someone who considers himself an expert in the field of attachment, doesn’t have the courage to tell parents the importance of prioritizing being with their children in those early years (0-3 years old). Of course, for some parents (e.g., very low income families, single parent households), being more present in their child’s life is sadly not realistic. But if a sizable number of parents took a closer look at their finances and made changes to their lifestyle, this is a feasible option. Talking about it as if it’s not possible for a majority of families only perpetuates the problem we have in this country of children not being securely attached to their parents.

Love RIE and love Janet Lansbury. Thank you for everything you do! Please keep episodes coming. I think I’ve listened to every one twice! Whenever I doubt myself as a parent (which is quite often) I come back to listen and find my way toward confidence again. Thank you Janet for being such an incredible mouthpiece for these practices!

The concepts and perspective shifts that Janet teaches have helped me become a better part of society. I'm not a parent, but love children so much and have grown to therefore love the adults who once were children.

This podcast has quite literally been life changing for me. I found it years ago as a new parent struggling to figure out how to be the mother, and even person, I wanted to be. Not only has Janet provided me the North Star I desperately needed in parenting and simply relating to my child, she has become a mother figure in my internal voice that has helped me through some tough times. Thank you for this, Janet!

Please get a professional editor / sound engineer. The sound quality takes me away from the content, (which is wonderful). The editing is very amateur, and the breaths, noise and sound quality is all over the place.

Janet and her accessible, intuitive, and transformative interpretation of be RIE approach has literally changed my life. Sometimes I joke that instead of those old WWJD (What Would Jesus Do) bracelets that were popular 20ish years ago, I need one now that refers to Janet. I don’t think there is one thing she has ever said that didn’t immediately resonate with me, but I never would have thought of it if it weren’t for her! I am incredibly grateful I found her before my son was much older. It’s not an exaggeration to say that she’s a genius and it breaks my heart that she and the RIE approach aren’t more popular. Shoutout to Ezra Klein for having her on his podcast and introducing me to her! Also, I LOVE her voice and tone and she just seems like the most lovely and genuine person with deep emotional intelligence. Love you Janet- I tell literally everyone about you!!

Mostly it’s the same advice over and over again: let your kids feel their feelings and encourage and validate their feelings. Good advice, but What’s missing is how parents can deal with the constant allowance of kids feeling their feelings. What I mean is, I am constantly overstimulated with growing impatience towards my kids and nothing in this podcast helps with that. How do I deal with the exhaustion of allowing my kids to work through their meltdowns without getting impatient?

Useful tidbits and advice in here but I wish she wouldn’t spend so much time rehashing and explaining what the letter writer is saying. She spends most of the episode on this part and sympathizing with the parent on their challenge which is rather obvious. The challenge they are facing is usually adequately described by the advice seeker already. I wish she would dedicate more time on explaining her advice and providing different examples or scenario plays. Still a great resource overall!

So grateful I found Janet’s podcast! She explains things so well and helps me feel confident in my parenting and excited for challenging situations so I can practice my skills. I also work part time at a daycare and her strategies and perspective have helped me enjoy my job and communicate more effectively with the children.

This is the first parenting podcast I ever listened to, years ago, and although my older kids are moved out of the younger age range now, I always go back and keep listening! Many guests cover topics that relate to kids of all ages. And much of the advice and insight is applicable no matter the age of your child, because a lot of it is about your mindset and outlook as a parent. Nearly every time I listen I gain another insight into my own behaviour and thinking, as well as my kids’.

I Really enjoy these podcasts. Out of the parenting/toddler podcasts, I think I enjoy this one best. Janet’s teaching of non judgmental parenting is also presented in a very non judgemental way and I think I like that best. I appreciate her soft, gentle tone. It feels safe for me as a parent just trying to do the fretful-parenting job right bc this stage of life is very hard for me to parent. I have twin 4year old and often listen to these on my way to pick them up for daycare to get me in the right frame of mind.

I don’t understand how it got 4.7 rating. If you want someone to pat on your back, says she understands how difficult it is to raise children, sure, listen to this. If you want a sounded, useful guidance toward your parenting struggle, go elsewhere. 👎

I love this podcast so much I have older kids and still listen because I think some of the advice still applies. The only issue I have is her voice comes through much quieter than most other podcasts. I can only listen in a very quiet room which is not easy to find if you have kids lol!

You have helped me SO much on my parenting journey. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Don’t ever stop what you are doing!! ❤️❤️

I have a 2 & 5 year old and have listened to Janet while cleaning, working out and driving over the last 5 years. The tools provided in the books and podcasts empower me to take on, with confidence and patience, what some days seems to be an exhausting repetitive behavior. I have a fresh new approach that I’m excited to implement after I listen to a podcast, and I love hearing about other parent’s experiences as it is SO relatable and reminds me that I’m not alone in this. Thank you so much for all of your work Janet!

Until I found Janet’s parenting resources, I didn’t know what kind of parent I wanted to be. I knew I didn’t want to use the same strategies that I was raised with, but I didn’t know how to enact the type of parenting I was envisioned myself as. Janet’s warmth, empathy, advice, and insight has become my North Star in my parenting journey. I will love her forever for the help she has given me in learning to be a whole person myself, and to see my children as whole people.

I was born and raised in a small town, with very authoritarian views. Janet, your podcast has been a huge part of my healing journey. Through understanding how children should be loved, supported and understood, I realized the need to heal my inner child, and protect my own children from inheriting generational issues. I could never thank you enough for being a mentor to me, as your gentle voice speaks in my mind as voice of reason when things get “ruffled”. My triplets were around 3 years old when I found your podcast, they are 5 now, and I can tell such a difference, not only in their behavior, but in my relationship with each of them. Blessings!

I wish I had found this sooner! My kids were 4 & 7 when I started listening 3 years ago. It’s still been super helpful for addressing parenting concerns for those ages and beyond, but I wish I had know about Magda’s methods when my oldest was born in 2013. I think it would have changed SO much about how I interacted with him and thought about him — those were difficult times for me, as they are for many first timers. Thank you, Janet, for continuing Magda’s legacy and giving this gift to frazzled parents the world over. ✨💛 Ruth

I’ve sent this podcast to all of my mom friends. Janet’s message in each episode will free you as a parent and allow you to take some pressure off yourself. Thank you, Janet! You’ve improved my mom journey so much over the years and I could never thank you enough🤍

I’m nervous to write this review because sometimes it feels like I have to be facing the right direction, at the right time of day, during the right phase of the moon, to get a yes from my toddler instead of a very physical tantrum. However, I’ve been listening to this podcast for a month, and listed to her book. Tonight I discussed with my toddler why I wanted her to take a bath and brush her teeth. And then…she did it. We have been struggling with this for over a year. Maybe a one off but it feels good to know that I could stay calm regardless of her outcome and not feel panicked over what to do next. Staying with my toddlers emotions helps me to stay with my own. I’m so glad I found this podcast.

I had to stop listening. Most all of her advice is only applicable if you have one kid. As someone with two kids very close in age there were so many things I couldn’t follow. I can’t just pick up one kid and bring them out when they have a tantrum because I have two and the other will start to tantrum. I can’t physically carry both. Was really disappointed in her advice but probably works ok if you have one kid.

Janet speaks honestly, with authority, openness, and empathy. Her advice is more nuanced than others; she doesn’t give “strategies” or “scripts.” She stays true to the concept of a unique relationship between parent and child and the complex ways parents provide “helpful” interventions on the surface but often communicate other mixed-messages in action, tone and manner. She encourages parents to think about their role in an alive dynamic with their children. I love this about her approach. Janet stimulates thinking! Personally, I love this about her podcast. There are so many “things to do” as a parent, instead she shows you how to be in the process, reflect on your contribution as a parent, think deeply (beyond surface behaviors) and trust your child. And for this reason alone, she is an invaluable resource and unlike any other parenting podcast out there.

I have been listening to this podcast for nearly five years. Each episode I note similar repetitions. 1. She often avoids a direct answer 2. She often states how someone has misinterpreted her previous advice (not surprising when she’s so vague in her responses) 3. I find she embarrassed some of the vulnerable parents who so humbly write in 4. One a note of personal observation, I find the letters that parents submit to her (to be read aloud and responded to) to be very…. Edited. It’s hard to believe that each person who submits a question a. Starts with an abundance of praise for her 2. Has such strong vocabulary…. It just seems like the unruffled team really modifies these to be consistently shaped the same to the point where it’s unrelatable. As I mentioned, I’ve been listening to this podcast for a while but when I compare this to “good inside” or other helpful parenting podcasts…. I’m quite easily discouraged by this one and definitely recommend others rather than this.

Janet, I LOVE YOU! I’m a long-time follower of your work and everything you do is A+ in my book. I support that you do this as a business and you should be compensated for the invaluable advice/expertise that you offer so I wouldn’t dare take off a star, but I had to let you know that your new ads are so abrupt! I loved the former model of your voice advertising for companies that you really stood behind. Random product ads and political ads (the worst) abruptly placed at the beginning AND end of the podcast are an unwelcome change for me. They won’t keep me from listening altogether, but I may not add to my playlist as I did before because I can’t stand the content when I don’t have my phone close enough by to skip it! We live in a digital world where there’s almost no corner untouched by obtrusive advertising, and my old favorite podcast is now no exception. I would love to escape the rat race while listening to parenting advice!

I work in Pediatics and I recommend this podcast to all families. Janet Lansbury is compassionate and clear on how to navigate all scenarios that present in raising children. Encouraging and understanding, she is a lifeline for all parents.

I am so thankful for this podcast! I’ve learned so much, not only about my children, but also about myself. Learning how to be a benevolent + strong leader is hard, but with your help, I’m understanding how to do that! Thank you Janet and guests!

Janet has a way of helping parents help their kids. She did for me and my toddler using her RIE approach. Whenever I have a parenting challenge, I look to search Janets archives and listen to her podcasts to help me navigate the challenge. Her wisdom and knowledge has helped me become the best parent I can be. Thankful for all the free content she has put out there and loved her book No bad kids. Thanks Janet for helping our family navigate toddlerhood.

Recent episode featured Dr. Jean Cheng who kept talking about forgotten traumas and repressed memories. These are claims that have been repeatedly debunked by established science. Not only is it bad science; it has the potential to tear apart families over allegations of abuse that never happened (and rewriting childhood memories). This episode implied that if you feel uncomfortable with certain behaviors from your child, you may well have repressed “traumas” that you do not recall from your own child. This advice is faulty and negligent. I no longer feel I can trust the content of this podcast.

Absolutely love this podcast. Janet is so great to listen to, her voice is calming and always makes me feel better! Love her take on children and our relationships with them. Thank you!

Very grateful to stumble upon this treasure of wisdom. The advice and stories have had a big impact on my caregiving. Bought her book too!