#104 Divorce Lawyer: Why 53% of Marriages Fail | James Sexton from BigDeal

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#104 Divorce Lawyer: Why 53% of Marriages Fail | James Sexton

1 hour 29 minutes Posted Nov 26, 2025 at 3:57 pm.

Introduction

Is Marriage Still Worth It? The Lottery Analogy

The 86% Remarriage Rate and Second Marriage Energy

Red Flags: How to Spot a Marriage Heading for Divorce

The Throw Pillow Test: Small Gestures That Say I Love You

The Weaponization of Intimacy: Why You Can't Take It Back

Dogs, Love, and the Bravery of Accepting Loss

Why James Isn't Jaded: Staying Romantic After 2,000 Divorces

People Stop Doing the Things That Kept Love Alive

The Two Biggest Problems: Not Knowing What You Want and Can't Express It

The Shaving Story: Positive Reinforcement vs. Criticism

Flowers and Nudes: Understanding What Your Partner Actually Wants

How Affairs Really Start: It's Never About the Sex

Instagram: The Infidelity Generating Machine

Prenups: Everyone Has One, Either Yours or the Government's

The Craziest Prenup: Ten Pounds Equals Ten Thousand Dollars

Democratizing Prenups: Making Marriage Contracts Accessible

Premarital Education: The Barrier to Entry Marriage Needs

Everyone's Sleeping With the Nanny: The Real Reason Why

The Weapon Analogy: Being a Divorce Lawyer and Believing in Justice

Poetry, Beauty, and Crying at Your Son's Wedding

Final Thoughts: Who Should Read This Book and Why

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Most people think marriage is about love. James Sexton knows better — it's about survival. After handling 2,000+ divorces over 25 years, this legendary divorce attorney has seen it all: the affairs that start with attention instead of sex, the gestures that can end marriages, and the brutal truth that 53% of marriages end in divorce. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, James breaks down why half of all marriages fail and what the other half is doing right.

From the real reason people cheat (hint: it's not what you think) to why Instagram is an infidelity-generating machine, James reveals the patterns that predict divorce with scary accuracy. We dive into the economics of relationships, why prenups are actually love letters, and how a dog can teach you more about marriage than any therapist. He shares the craziest prenup he's ever seen (10 pounds = $10,000 less in alimony), why "happy wife, happy life" is terrible advice, and the one question that softens even the most bitter couples.

But this isn't just about what goes wrong — it's about what goes right. James explains why second marriages have better odds, how to fight fairly without weaponizing intimacy, and why the male equivalent of flowers might be exactly what you think it is. If you've ever wondered why some couples make it while others crash and burn, or if you want to save your relationship before it ends up in a lawyer's office, this episode will change how you think about love, commitment, and the bravest thing any human can do.

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