He may blame his porn use and other abusive behaviors on "shame", but Kate and Anne break it down on the BTR podcast. Shame didn't make him do it.

Shame Didn’t Make Him Do It

No woman wants to face the horror of her husband’s betrayal. Or have to recover from the emotional, physical & financial trauma and never-ending consequences. But these courageous women DID. And we’ll walk with you, so YOU can too.  If you’re experiencing pain, chaos, and isolation due to your husband’s lying, anger, gaslighting, manipulation, infidelity, and/or emotional abuse…  If he’s undermined you and condemned you as an angry, codependent, controlling gold-digger…  If you think your husband might be an addict or narcissist. Or even if he’s “just” a jerk…  If your husband (or ex) is miserable to be around, this podcast is for YOU.