I put Marla's bio below this description but let me tell ya'll, I came in with three talking points:1. What is the Sex Down South Conference?2. Speaking to the intersection of pleasure and safety when it comes to sex3. Talking about kink as a treatment for traumaI NEVER make outlines for episodes because typically the content deviates from the topic and I find myself trying too hard to stay on topic but we managed to get an hour of conversation going between us. Marla offers some examples of this with choking and I share some of my own experiences navigating not only the conference but how kink has been helpful to me navigating not just my ideas of sex, but with INTIMACY. If you've been listening to the last few episodes or following me on social media then you know I've been looking at my own relationship to sex and intimacy and invite you to do the same.Don't forget the herpes survey: www.spfpp.org/surveyDon't forget weekly support group meetings but you gotta be a Patreon subscriber: www.patreon.com/spfppMarla (she/her) is a certified sexologist,author, and sexual strategist who runs herown sexuality education company, VelvetLips. She is also a Co-Founder of the top-rated Sex Down South Conference. She hasstudied human sexuality for more than 22years and has given over 600 workshops allover the world. She has been featured on avariety of media outlets, including Netflix’sTrigger Warning with Killer Mike and Love &HipHop Atlanta. She co-wrote her firstbook, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction &Foreplay with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, whichdebuted in April 2020.You can learn more about Sex Down South by visiting www.sexdownsouth..com and following SDS on social media at SDSCON.