Feeling Broken In The Bedroom? What You Need To Know About Your Sexual Health - With Dr. Kelly

Casperson

This is an interview I did with Lesley

McShane for her podcast “Redesigning Midlife” and it was just such a goodinterview I asked her if I could share it again. 

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Basics:  a. Menopause means it’s been one year and one day since your lastperiod. b. The average age of menopause is around 51. and c. for ten yearsprior to menopause, women go through peri-menopause, where hormones are doing areverse puberty.

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A lot of women stop or have pain during penetrative intercourse during thistime due to a decrease in natural lubricant and collagen, but this can beeasily treated.

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Even if you don't have menopause symptoms, if you are over the age ofapproximately 51, you have gone through it.

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The most sexually satisfied people aren’t young people, it is people in their50s, 60s, 70s.

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Great sex is not a passive thing. It’s an active process, just like someonethat is physically fit. It has to be prioritized.

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Use of lube increases your success of orgasm by 70-80%. Silicone based lube isbest because you don’t absorb it like you do the water based.

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There is no “how long” should I use Vaginal Estrogen cream. The use of it islike using sunscreen or wearing a seat belt.

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You don’t need a “sex drive”. We do things because they are awesome.  Ifyou aren’t having awesome sex, don’t wonder why you don’t desire it.

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We feel entitled to a spontaneous sex drive that has been sold to us by media.And when we don’t achieve that, we end up feeling broken.

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Putting something in the vagina only leads to female orgasm 30% of the time sospecial focus need to be paid to the female body. Your largest sex organ isyour brain.

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Don’t sit passively by waiting for spontaneous desire to happen. Get dressed upand go to the party even if you don’t think you want to. Chances are you’llhave a good time once you get there.

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Control of stress and cortisol levels in our bodies will help us desire moreintimacy.

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If there is a desire mis-match in your relationship, normalize it by talkingabout it.

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Communication with our partner about menopausal symptoms and what we are goingthrough is important to our relationship.

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Get educated on hormone replacement therapy as an option. When women startthinking about how they want to live as they get older and get educated, thenthey see how beneficial HRT could be for them.

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Women between the age of 50-60 that are on hormone therapy live 3-4 yearslonger than women in the same age group not on hormone therapy.

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For our young adult children that are starting their own sexual lives, thebiggest thing they need to know from the start is about consent.

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They need to be aware of is orgasmic equality.

19.We have to educate our girls that pleasure is for everybody.

 Lesley McShane's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redesigning-midlife-workout-motivation-over-50-weight/id1549596974

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