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🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: 🚪 You’re about to go to mediation and don’t know what to expect 📝 You want to know what documents and disclosures you actually need 😵💫 You’re anxious about seeing your ex in the same room 🧠 You want practical tips to mentally and emotionally prepare ⚖️ You want to give yourself the best chance of settling 👀 You’re worried your ex is manipulative or controlling 🎯 You want a checklist of exactly what to do before the big day Mediation can be one of the most powerful tools in your separation or divorce journey — but only if you’re properly prepared. In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn (a seasoned family lawyer) to reveal the top 5 things mediators wish people knew before walking into mediation. Whether you’re facing property division, parenting negotiations, or dealing with a high-conflict or manipulative ex, we’re giving you practical, real-world strategies to set you up for success. From shuttle rooms to knowing your must-haves vs nice-to-haves, this episode is your ultimate mediation prep guide. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of family and domestic violence. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is general information only and not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice for your situation. ⏱️ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Mediation 00:10 Top Five Things Mediators Wish You Knew 01:18 Separate Rooms for Mediation -Do you have to be in the same room with your ex? (Hint: no!) 07:03 Compromise is Key - Why compromise is crucial — and how to prepare for it 11:52 Be Prepared with Documents - Clear goals vs nice-to-haves: how to prep like a pro 17:17 Anticipate Your Ex's Roadblocks 21:53 Navigating Conversations About Your Ex 22:20 Understanding Your Role in Mediation 22:29 Join Our Free Webinar 23:06 The Mediation Experience 24:13 Handling Pressure During Mediation 27:07 Preparing for Mediation -Your must-have mediation prep checklist 29:55 Dealing with Different Divorce Personality Types 34:00 Tips for staying calm and focused with difficult exes 36:26 Managing Manipulative and Controlling Exes 40:26 Where to get free mediation and disclosure checklists 🔑 Key Topics Discussed: The 5 things mediators wish you knew How to emotionally prepare for mediation What to do when you’re dealing with coercive control or narcissism Practical tips for organising your evidence and disclosures The power of clear goals and flexible thinking How to keep calm and avoid being derailed The truth about compromise — and how to protect yourself while doing it Why you’re still in control, even if you feel overwhelmed Using mediation as a tool — even if your ex is impossible The role of support people, tech tips, and being emotionally ready 📚 Related Episodes: 🎙️ Can You Mediate With a Narcissist? https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vjl0I9xXUQruoAQKLVh11?si=pQpMWvz_RHKapxZ07AgkoA 🎙️ Mediation or Manipulation? https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew?si=EeVPhl6dTDiphTLXhoeTaA 🎙️ What Happens After Mediation https://open.spotify.com/episode/00kTon70LllVE97X8zn9vK?si=YPRmwZVQQ7-sakgcA6J7_g 🆘 Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: Visit your state’s Legal Aid website 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): 13 11 14 👨👦 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 🚨 National DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) 🖤 Aboriginal Family DV Hotline: 1800 019 123
