Mary's mother needs a new kidney — as long as it doesn't come from Mary. What's a good daughter to do? In this episode of How To! Mary hears from Larissa MacFarquhar, author of <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143109782/?tag=slatmaga-20">a book on extreme altruism</a>, to learn how to convince ourselves - and others - to do the most generous things. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. <a href= "https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=How_To&utm_source=show_notes"> Sign up</a> now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href= "https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

How To Withstand Pain

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We all need advice, but it's not always clear who to ask. Each week, Mike Pesca invites a listener on the show to tackle a real problem, like protecting our elderly loved ones from scammers, emigrating as a throuple, and speaking without saying "um" - all with help from world-class experts: attorneys, doctors, entrepreneurs, authors, researchers - who actually know what they're talking about. Think of it as eavesdropping on someone else's therapy session, without the co-pay or awkward silence.