Financial Feminist
Financial Feminist
Her First $100K
279. Building REAL Confidence with Kara Loewentheil
56 minutes Posted Mar 31, 2026 at 9:00 am.
Intro
Confidence Is a Skillset, Not a Feeling
Why Power Poses and Beyoncé Songs Don't Work
Does "Fake It Till You Make It" Actually Work?
Kara's Background: Yale, Harvard Law, and Becoming a Coach
Betting on Yourself Without Feeling Confident
Confidence vs. Certainty and Control
Confidence as a Relationship with Yourself
The Confidence Compass Framework
Money, Shame, and Which Block Shows Up Most
How Shame Disguises Itself as Responsibility
The Permission Slip Problem
How to Uncouple Shame and Build New Beliefs
Unlearning Selflessness Without Feeling Selfish
Confidence Doesn't Come from Having Things — It Creates Them
Using the Confidence Compass for Money Goals
The Seeds of Who You Want to Be Are Already in You
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If you've ever power posed in a bathroom mirror or blasted a Beyoncé song before a big negotiation hoping it would make you believe in yourself, this episode is going to completely change the way you think about confidence. I'm sitting down with return guest Kara Loewentheil, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought, host of the internationally top-ranked podcast Unfuck Your Brain, and author of the instant New York Times bestseller Take Back Your Brain, and we're getting into the real, evidence-backed truth about what confidence actually is — and why everything you've been told about building it is probably doing you more harm than good. Kara breaks down her Confidence Compass framework — self-knowledge, self-compassion, self-belief, and self-actualization — and why real confidence has nothing to do with a feeling or a pose, and everything to do with building a trusting relationship with yourself so you can take risks, go after your financial goals, and create the life you actually want.
Kara’s links:
Website: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/HSC 
Unf*ck Your Brain podcast: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/podcasts/ 
Take Back Your Brain book: https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com/ 
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